Hello! My name is Robert (Bob) Apple, I currently live in Santa Maria California, but lived in the Silicon Valley for forty years. I was married twice, had two great kids, a boy and a girl.
I have done many things in life. I worked many years for UPS. I have also owned several businesses; video store, video production, a bar (not as much fun as you think), and I was a partner that owned four Quizno’s franchises. Yeah, that didn’t go so well! I worked for a short time as a Private Investigator. I disliked training to be a Private Investigator (it’s not like the movies), so I quit and went to work for UPS.
Some of my hobbies over the years have been; restoring old Volkswagens, managing local bands, and video production. Recently, I have been weightlifting. I wish I had started this earlier. I feel fantastic and have so much energy. I love new challenges. My philosophy in life is: you won’t know if you don’t try.
If I were to describe myself, I would say: I like to think positive almost to a fault, love helping other people and I am a good listener. I get satisfaction in helping others reach their goals in life. I love taking risks in life, to me that’s the point of being alive. I hate failure, but learn to accept it. I tend to see the best in others, not the worst.
Several years ago, when I was about 55 years old, I became addicted to alcohol, and prescription drugs. My life had gotten so unraveled that I was forced to retire from my job at UPS after 27 years as a driver. I was an absolute mess and had become someone I could barely recognize. My behavior was erratic; I was a chronic liar, undependable, aimless, and lonely. My family and friends could no longer take what I was doing to myself and stayed away.
A month after I retired from UPS, I entered my first of three rehabs. I couldn’t seem to understand why I couldn’t stay sober. When I got out of the last rehab, I knew if I drank again or took drugs I would die. The problem was, I didn’t know how to stop. I always had the best intentions when I would leave a rehab, but as soon as life got tough, I would start the cycle over again.
Finally out of desperation, I made the decision to live in a Sober Living Home. I used to live with 16 other people in a Sober Living Home for over two years. I worked very hard to stay sober and change my life. Living in a Sober Living Home saved my life. Being sequestered away from all things familiar to me was key to my recovery. I began to thrive again as a person instead of being stuck and hopeless.
I went from a client at the house to House Manager after about five months. We had an unexpected change in management, and I was asked to take over as house manager. I reveled in my new position as house manager and loved helping others. It was these two years of managing a Sober Living Home that has given me a unique perspective about addiction. In my time as a manager, I had the opportunity to live with many other people (over 60). This close intimate setting, living with other addicts/alcoholics, gave me a huge insight into recovery.
This experience has brought me to where I am today, blogging about sobriety and sober living. My goal is to be able to share my experiences of addiction, recovery, rehab, and Sober Living Homes, in the hopes that it may help others.